This post is gender specific; but can benefit everyone.
Perhaps if one really knew when one was happy one would know the things that were necessary for one’s life – (Joanna Field)
How happy are you right now? Do you even know? Most women know what makes their parents, their husbands, or children happy. But when it comes to an awareness about the little, specific things in life that brings a smile to our faces and contentment to our own hearts, we often come up short.
In 1926 a young Englishwoman, Joanna Field, began to feel that she was not living a truly authentic life, that she did not know what made her truly happy. To remedy this she kept a journal in order to discover what specifically triggered the feeling of delight in her daily life. The journal, A Life of One’s Own, was published in 1934. It was written, she confided, in the spirit of a detective who searches through the fiber of the mundane, in hopes of finding clues for what was missing in her life.
What is missing from many of our days is a true sense that we are enjoying the lives we are living. It is difficult to experience moments of happiness if we are not aware of what it is we genuinely love. We must learn to savor small, authentic moments that bring us contentment. Experiment with a new cookie recipe. Take the time to slowly arrange a bouquet of flowers in order to appreciate their colors, fragrance and beauty. Sip a cup of tea on the front porch in the sunshine. Pause for five minutes to pet a purring cat or a content puppy. Simple pleasures waiting to be enjoyed. Simple pleasures often overlooked.
Joanna Field discovered that she delighted in red shoes, good food, sudden bursts of laughter, reading in French, answering letters, loitering in a crowd at a fair and “a new idea when it is grasped.”
Let us each grasp a new idea this year. Let us grasp the awareness of what it is that makes us truly happy. Let us consider our personal preferences and learn how to recognize, then embrace, moments of happiness that are uniquely our own and then share them with others.
Many times we can get so focused on our own lives that we forget others. One point to keep in mind. After you find what makes you happy, you will also find that unspeakable happiness is found in those large moments of time when we pursue the joy of others. To truly feel whole and wholesome and complete, we must make every effort to make others feel better about anything and everything. These are hard times and uncertain futures for people. Share new joys and consistent hopes with others and don’t leave a room full of people that are not smiling. AND, never forget who gave you the ability to desire happiness and then sets you on a path to find it;….to find Him.
Ps 144:15 “Happy is that people, that is in such a case: yea, Happy is that people, whose God is the LORD.”
1 Tim 2:10 “But (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works.”
Tit 2:3-4 “The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,…”
Prov 11:16 “A gracious woman retaineth honour: and strong men retain riches.”
Prov 12:4 “A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones.”
Prov 14:1 “Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.”
Prov 31:30 “Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.”