Dedicated to my mother- Wanda F.
When mom and dad split, we often ask, what is a single mother? Is she a woman with much strength and love or pain and fear? Maybe she’s the devil in disguise or perhaps the angel beneath the pain.
Could she be a woman of much style and grace?
One thing is for certain; no one can understand what a single mother is unless they experience the feeling themselves. A single mother is a woman who is filled with everlasting, unconditional love, and words of wisdom to guide the way through life.
A single mother doesn’t receive much credit today for the way she dedicates her life to working long hard hours and making time in her busy schedule to take care of what is hers. She goes through life trying so hard to do her best for her child, yet sometimes she feels as if the world is caving in, although one thing goes up, another one comes down.
For instance; she might get a raise at work but then the bills pile up. She has no financial support. She struggles to put food on her table and a roof over family’s head. The only thing that keeps her family alive and well is her love and her faith in God.
People with traditional standards always seem to say, ” How dare she bear a child alone with no husband!” They don’t understand the concept that life doesn’t always turn out the way we planned. We don’t always get what we want.
Very judgmental people snarl and stare as the single mother walks by with her beautiful little girl or her handsome young man for whom she has sacrificed her life. If she needs a jacket or a pair of shoes, yet her child does too, her child comes first. She puts all of her wants and needs aside for the sake of her child.
I’ve had a single mother for 45 difficult years of my life. It wasn’t easy for either of us. I had to grow up quicker than most kids so that I could help my mother and try to be what I thought I needed to be and do. Thoughts of not having a father became an issue from time to time, but today I wouldn’t change it for the world!
When I was a little person and I fell and scraped my knee; good old mommy was there to doctor me up with her tender touch and loving care. She tucked me into bed at night and rubbed my belly when I was sick.
When adolescence was my stage in life, grammar school wasn’t so easy for me because my classmates used to tease me and laugh at me because I didn’t have what they had or what I did have was wrong and certainly not their standards- It always seemed as if I was alone.
But when the time came to cry, my mom had a way of showing me how to take my hanging head and hold it up high and proud. As adulthood moved in and romance became a part of my life, mother was often needed.
I had moments of love and even I, had broken hearts. I ran back to my mother and poured out all my pain. I couldn’t seem to conquer the fear of moving on and tears and anger fell like the rain pouring down on a dark, gloomy day, but mommy was always there.
She taught me how to disregard my fears, leading me always to the Lord and she calmed my cries by showing me that life goes on. She told me “You have to accept what has gone wrong, forgive others and yourself and move on.”
I’ve done some wrong things myself and wished my mother truly knew what she help form and inspire and keeping me from a destructive future; and that certainly included encouraging good moral character and a dedication to proving all things- All that I needed in life could only come from becoming something that God wanted in me. And I recall the days when my single mom would minister to me that help from God above; and I’ve never left it.
Some say a mother is one who bears children, one who cooks and cleans and that’s all she is here for. For me, she’s the soothing of the soul and the healing of the heart. For she alone pointed me to that place called “there.”
A mother: a kind-hearted woman with much strength, wisdom, and integrity. Never forsake those loving and single moms.
Credit: Compiled with Amanda Martin
Prov 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.