A wise and understanding heart does not repay a hurt with a hurt. In doing so, the heart is diminished. Fissures form. Love leaks out. Every pain given in return for one received, changes the contents of the heart. It is no longer defined by love, wisdom and understanding. It is redefined by the bearers of hurt and hate, pain, meanness and madness, sorrow and sadness. You give away control of your very own heart.
Revenge does not diminish the pain. It only makes it worse. Hurting the one that you love will eventually hurt you in the end. Overcoming it, not clinging to the hurt and inflicting more of it on the world, heals the despair of being hurt.
When darkness is added to darkness, no one can see, no one can love, and everyone loses. It’s been said that an eye for an eye makes the world blind. Love is not always warm and fuzzy. Sometimes it’s the integrity we hold onto when we’re tempted to strike back. Sometimes it’s the honor that keeps us from exchanging the valuable contents of our heart for the harsh satisfaction of lashing back.
No, the way of love is not always easy, but when night falls, dawn is assured. The integrity and honor of a wise and understanding heart, rises with the sun of a new day.
1 Kings 3:12
“Behold, I have done according to thy words: lo, I have given thee a wise and an understanding heart; so that there was none like thee before thee, neither after thee shall any arise like unto thee.”